Back to School Guide For Split-Custody Parents
By: Sydney Richter
This year has proven to be one of the most difficult back-to-school seasons ever. The Covid-19 pandemic and the uncertainties attached have complicated everything, especially for divorced couples. We are here to make sure you are prepared for the year ahead.
Open communication is vital to be able to co-parent with the best interest in the child in mind. Parents must collaborate effectively to create a safe environment for their children. This is easier said than done, given all of our lives have completely changed this past year. Here is our guide to putting your child’s needs first and setting yourself up for a successful year.
Put your Children First
This is a given. Especially if this is their first school year since the divorce, things will be very different for them. Allow them to open up to you and encourage them to express their worries. Always show an interest in how their day went and remind them that you are there to listen.
Establish a Routine
A comfortable routine is absolutely crucial. Implement a routine that your children can rely on and accommodate for any unpredictable circumstances. Make sure to keep consistent schedules and house rules whenever possible. Bedtimes, homework, and everything in between should be negotiated and remain the same for both houses.
Inform the teachers and school
Simplify communication for everyone by informing your children’s teachers and school about your family situation. Many teachers will accommodate and will often provide 2 sets of school materials if they are aware the child is split between two homes. They will also be able to help monitor your child and handle any issues that may arise.
Attending parent-teacher conferences together demonstrates that your child’s education is the top priority and will keep parents on the same page with their student’s education. This also establishes clear communication between the teacher and parents.
Be flexible
Covid-19 might have flipped your family’s routines upside down. It is important to be ready for any situation, as there is always the possibility for change.
Many people have little control right now. Stay on top of the game with short-term plans with the understanding that things may change tomorrow. Child custody orders will often determine who is responsible in bad weather circumstances and teacher in-service days, and it is key to plan for these unpredictable scenarios in advance.
Is your child struggling?
No matter how well you and your ex might communicate, the uncertainties associated with the pandemic and the new school year will be a cause of anxiety for your kids. Make sure you are looking out for signs that your children might need help.
Plan fun activities with your children and build stress-release into your routine. Giving them something to look forward to will help them adapt to new situations.